Alexandria Deas, MA, LMHCA, MHP
…but you can call me “Alex”.
When I started my private practice, I realized that I wanted to serve educated, professional, upwardly mobile people who have their own particular set of challenges that others don’t necessarily notice or recognize. Being the first, the only, the Other, the token, that is a special and rare ordeal that I totally understand.
For the first few months, about 90% of my calls came from black professional women who needed to work through issues they’d been carrying around for years and years. Over time, people from various cultures and ethnic backgrounds began to call, but the core concerns were the same: How can I have a relationship with my mom who only thinks of herself; why am I in my third failed relationship; why can’t I accomplish my goals like all the people around me; my family depends on me for everything and I’m tired of it; I feel guilty for the way I acted and I just can’t get over it; am I a horrible, unlovable, person; do I have to always be the strong one…
As we worked through these issues, and many more, my clients began to achieve the outcomes they wanted. Together, we did the deep work, the kind that fundamentally changes how you see yourself and the world around you. When I know that my client has gained not only concrete skills, but self-confidence, the ability to be reflective, and the capacity to fully show up in the world, I know we are on to something.
What this looks like:
RELIEF: A client who has always had to rescue everyone finally learns that the world will not fall apart if she ceases to hold it together.
ALIGNMENT: A client who is bound by her family’s religious values begins to live in a way that is consistent with her own core values.
MEANING: A client who lacks a deep sense of purpose discovers her own worth, value, and reason for living.
REPAIR: A client who has not been able to speak to their toxic mother in months restructures the relationship in a way that is healthy and sustainable.
CONSISTENCY: A client who has been struggling to keep herself accountable to her truest desires is able to make the kind of progress she has yearned for.
FREEDOM: A client cries while admitting that they feel a heavy burden has been lifted from their shoulders.
This is what I do. This is what I do.
A few details for the curious:
Owner and Counselor : Wisdom Meets Beauty Counseling
Adjunct Faculty - Northwest University, Undergraduate Psychology